If you’re queer and want kids, a career and a house and to serve in the military, have at it. But don’t forget those who helped you achieve all of that, and don’t think for a moment that we’re living in some kind of post-queer Shangri-La where your queerness is no longer important, or that you’re really equal. Whether you like it or not (or acknowledge it or not), there are too many people around the world — from Russia to Uganda to Mississippi — who will testify otherwise (if they’re not too afraid to open their mouths for fear of being attacked or killed, that is).
What’s more, our queerness is what makes us special. You, by your very existence as a queer person, exist in opposition to what governments and religions and cultures have told us is necessary and desirable and true. Even if you choose not to believe it or behold it, being queer is a calling to lead each other and everyone else toward a better future — not one where our sexualities and our gender presentations and our sex lives evaporate or are erased or don’t matter, but one where all of it matters, all of it is celebrated exactly as we discover it or dream it or make it so.
Also, Black Widow accomplished all of it without being a billionaire.